How to Get Your Partner to Enjoy Sex More Often

This is one subject that does not get enough attention. I think a lot of couples are too busy trying to find ways of improving their techniques in the bedroom, and many times the reason for this, especially for men, is to get their partners to enjoy sex more often.

Yes, improving your overall techniques in cunnilingus, fingering, intercourse and foreplay can play an important part in helping your partner enjoy the experience of love making. However, none of these amazing techniques really matters if your partner isn’t even in the mood to have sex, or even think about it.

How many of you out there can relate to this scenario;

" We have been married for almost twenty years, have two beautiful children, and we are both still madly in love with each other. However, lately my husband/wife does not make love to me as often as we used to".

or,

" I love my husband/wife very much, but lately I just don’t enjoy making love anymore. What is wrong with me?".

These are probably the first things that come into your mind when your partner says "not now honey" to sex;

• Is she/he not attracted to me anymore?
• Does he/she not love me anymore?
• Is there somebody else?
• That’s not fair, I have needs too you know?
• Aarrrrrg I am so damn frustrated…Maybe he/she will give me some tonight…

Ok, though there could be some truth in the first three reasons posted above, in most cases they are the most unlikely reasons.

Other reasons could be due to deep emotional issues and medical related issues. In this case, only a doctor or phychiatrist will be able to help.

Now let us take a look at the most likely reasons why your partner may not enjoy sex as often as he/she had in the past;

He/she is just too damn busy and stressed out to be enjoying anything.
All he/she ever thinks about is sex. We can’t do anything without it having to end up in sex.
For those that are not in the mood, does this feeling sound familiar?

So, how does one go about fixing this scenario? Well, for starters, both parties need to be aware that there is a problem. Find the right moment to talk to your partner and let them know how you feel. Do this in the most tactful and diplomatic way without patronizing your partner.

If you find out that the reason your partner is not interested in sex anymore is due to stress and work load, find out how you can help by making their lives easier. Help with the house work, make dinner more often, help the children with their home work etc.

Stop directly asking or begging for sex. Don’t initiate it as often as you usually do. Instead, use your energy to offer your partner a relaxing massage (without expecting sex afterwards).

Take him/her out to a movie or romantic dinner. Go out for walks and just talk about stuff. Get to know each other again;

• Learn to laugh at each other’s jokes.
• Learn to listen to each other.
• Learn to flirt and seduce your partner again.
• If you kiss your partner, let it end in just a kiss.
• If tease your partner,let it end in a tease.

Before you know it, there will be sparks again, and if all goes well, both your and your partner will be enjoying raw passionate sex.

If you have any extra tips on how to get your partner to enjow sex more often that you would like to share with us, please feel free to use the comment form below this article.

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