How to Give Her Mind-Blowing Sex

If there is one thing that most sex experts will never get tired of teaching, it is the power of “variety”. Without variety, a lovemaking session can become stale and uninteresting, thus turning it into a boring, obligatory routine. This is the last thing that sex should be.

So, on that note, we will go into detail on how to effectively add variety into every lovemaking session so that you and your partner can experience erotic, kinky, and raw passionate sex whenever the mood arises for either of you;

The problem with most couples is that they approach the idea of variety incorrectly. First of all, in order for it to be effective, both parties must be totally open minded to the concept, and should be willing and able to totally “let go”, both mentally and emotionally.  Secondly, neither party should feel forced into anything that makes them uncomfortable. Thirdly, there must be an unending amount of mutual respect and trust between both parties.

Variety is important because it not only brings unending fresh air into the bedroom, but also insures that both parties never stop learning each other’s sexual wants and needs. It also prevents you from getting into that dangerous comfort zone that is so difficult to get out of.

When couples think about variety, the first thing that comes into their minds is the following:

Adding different Sex positions
Introducing Sex Games
Introducing role playing

Though they are correct in going along this path, there is a certain factor that is often overlooked. Because of this, many couples will find themselves trying out different sex positions, sex games, as well as dwell into role playing, but with often disastrous results.

Let us take sex positions as an example;

Usually one would add a few kinky sex positions into a lovemaking session only to find that it does nothing more than cause unease and frustration. Both parties become disappointed to find that the sex was still the same with nothing new or exciting added.

The reason why this occurs is because people generally depend on the physical stimulation that they feel "variety" is supposed to add. Because of this, the idea of adding a different sex position is there solely for the hopes of intensifying the physical stimulation in order to help each party achieve an orgasm. This does not usually work out well because both parties don’t really feel anything different. In addition, anything that does feel slightly different gets consciously or subconsciously overlooked because of the way society has been conditioned and programmed since birth.

Most of what gets overlooked is usually psychological or emotional, and generally, many of these feelings and thoughts would be considered “improper” or “wrong and sinful”, thus making it all taboo.

In other words, it is not so much the sex position that should be the important factor when adding variety, but rather, it should be the “secondary” feelings and thoughts that go on in our minds. Therefore, if you were to use doggy-style as a new sex position to add variety, it might be the deep inner feelings of having total control over your partner while looking down at her vulnerable yet sexy ass as you firmly pound away. For a woman, it might be the vulnerable feeling of having to go down on all fours before her man so that he can totally dominate her by thrusting away firmly and passionately, feeling as though she is under his mercy.

Effective Variety = Hungrily Dwelling into the Psychological and Emotional Secondary Feelings = Letting Yourself Go

It is not so much the sex position, sex game, or role playing concept that adds effective variety into your lovemaking sessions, but rather the manner and approach in how you introduce these concepts, or during the time you perform these concepts. This alone can turn a typical sex position into an erotic, sinful night of pleasure.

However, in order to get this to work, both you and your partner need to let yourselves go. You have to be able to let your desires be allowed to come true. This can only happen if you both ensure each other that neither will judge the other for the erotic, kinky thoughts you wish to become a reality. Only once you are able to do this, will you be able to truly feel the power of variety in the bedroom.

Let us take dominance as an example;

For many men, the idea of taking full control of their partner during a lovemaking session is highly erotic. The thought of being able to make their partner do whatever they want is extremely kinky and “erotically sinful”. However, most men would be too afraid of making this fantasy a reality in the fear that they might insult their partner, or that their partner will judge them incorrectly. Therefore, they will take the “safe” route of simply trying out a sex position that might resemble the idea, but never go further than that.

Now, if both parties learn to trust each other, have respect for each other, and learn to have an open mind, neither would feel embarrassed of letting go, because it is just a fantasy and nothing more.

Adding Effective variety into any lovemaking session is about stimulating the mind. By doing so, you are able to experience all the delights of some of the deepest desires that you thought would never be attainable. Talking to your partner as if she were nothing more than your personal sex slave, or having her give you a blowjob while you are fast asleep, and then waking up just before you are about to ejaculate are just some of the things you could try. Notice how it is the mind that gets turned on by just thinking of it. Imagine some of the thoughts and disires she might be keeping at bay. If only she could tell you so that you could make her come over and over again.

Only once you and your partner can reach this stage in your relationship, will the two of you be able to enjoy good quality sex that never gets stale. 

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